Many guys, especially those who have never done it before, freeze up when it comes to making the first move and approaching a girl. Several publications will tell you that if you don’t have confidence in yourself, you’ll turn into a macho-alpha male playboy. Obviously, though, that is not how things work.
The first step is to recognize that feeling fear is natural. One’s natural reaction to everything unfamiliar is fear. No matter how simple it appears, the fact remains that this is a new experience for you, and it is natural to feel nervous. Here are some suggestions about how to initiate conversation with a girl.
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The first step is to make a definite commitment to approaching the situation in the present
It’s safe to say this is the most effective treatment for avoidance of close contact. You vowed to yourself! You’ll just be fooling yourself if you wait any longer to make contact now. It’s embarrassing to let your friends down after making a promise to accomplish something. Seeing the gravity of a broken promise to oneself, you feel repulsion at the thought of deceiving your own best interests. Being turned down is preferable to fooling yourself. Build up your capacity for taking responsibility for yourself.
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Prevent a possible retreat by blocking the way
Just picture a gigantic wall rising up behind you after you promised to approach and then ran into trouble. And it creeps up on you, compelling you to move forward as quickly as possible, because all it takes to break down that barrier is a simple hello to a stunning woman.
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The three-second rule
Rule that is widely followed and often successful. The goal is to make a mental pact to approach a girl, count to three, two, one, and then make your move. Don’t stop until you’ve accomplished your mission once the starter’s pistol sounds. The rule is quite straightforward. Useful in a wide variety of scenarios.
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Don’t be intimidated by People
Regarding social anxiety, it’s the judgments of others that we worry about the most. Generally speaking, if you approach a girl and strike up a conversation, onlookers will view you favorably. They can’t hold it against you if they realize you’re trying to talk things out.
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Use the energy of anger
If you are scared, it makes you feel terrible. Take advantage of it by convincing yourself that you have decided to stop feeling this way. Let your anger to fuel your resolve.
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Commit
Make a deal with your pals that you will meet and talk to the girl in front of everyone. Then, your only options are to either embarrass yourself in front of them or approach the girl. Keep reading:
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Be realistic in your expectations
The worry stems from lofty anticipations and a reluctance to reveal the significance of the strategy at play. If you want to win a girl over, all you need to do is be genuine. Being disingenuous is easy if you expect too much or over-prepare.